Happy Mother’s Day and May and Indy 500 Month!
I love enjoying God’s beauty, family, and taking pictures, so it was a perfect Mother’s Day for me – thank you family and Liz! Liz has such great talent and specializes in dog and puppy photography, and families along with them! She is always looking for dogs and puppies to photograph (and with the owners permission submits them to calendar, magazine, and greeting card companies) and owners/families if desired. If you, too, are interested in having your special pet photographed, contact Liz at 317-357-5785, http://www.lizkaye.com.
We all had a wonderful afternoon in the park together!
I want to thank all my so very special patients for giving me the honor of caring for you and learning and sharing from you! I will summarize the frequent problem of constipation and “A Weekend to Remember” for marriage, and begin to share insights from 2 good books on parenting boys and girls. I love to learn and read, and await my patient Shelly’s tips on a gluten free diet to share with you soon (she feels so much better and has lost 15# in not quite 2 months). My thumb is still bothering me with swelling and pain and a splint, so I am sorry my blogs are a little late (I know it will heal in time, and now I know what a broken bone is like)!
Lab tip from my patient Andrea: (for people with a large deductible or no insurance)- LabCorp at 75th and Shadeland has many less expensive/cheap lab tests available even without an order, like a 14 panel test including blood sugar, cholesterol, liver enzymes for $27 plus a $10 draw fee (needs to be paid at the time of draw). The website is http://www.labcorp.com/, and phone # is 317-577-5820.
I read 4 great parenting books while on my spring break vacation. Over the next several blogs, I will summarize parts of “MOM’S Everything Book for Daughter’s” by Becky Freeman, and “Bringing up Boys” by James Dobson.
: Build your mother-daughter connections by making her feel loved by:
1. Give her the gift of your presence – listen with focused attention, sit and slow down, look her in the eyes, touch her in motherly ways (stroke her hair, rub her arm, hug her).
2. Speak to her with respect and kindness
3. Encourage her efforts with enthusiast.
4. Seek first to understand your daughter’s point of view.
5 Answer her honest questions with your honest answers.
6. Say yes whenever you possibly can (reserve no for when necessary).
7. Ask her opinion.
8. Allow your daughter to feel any feelings she may have.
9. Let her cry, and don’t be afraid to cry with her (you could have or make a family teddy bear that is passed to the person most in need of some extra love and cuddling on a particularly trying day).
Ideas to do together – plan a time to look over baby or girlhood pictures, watch a great mom-daughter movie (like Princess Diaries, Mary Poppins, Father of the Bride, Singing in the Rain, etc.-get the book for a long great list and many great ideas), read Proverbs 31:10-31 together (about the virtuous woman)
The hormone testosterone in largely responsible for maleness. It shows up in the 6-7 week embryo and begins transforming them into boys (it is a hormonal bath that changes the make-up and even color of the brain).
Boys are men in training, and often value change, risk, speculation, and adventure, and need to be shaped, molded, and “civilized”. Watch out for wounded spirits in your boys from other children being mean/taunting, schools, and society (closely monitor any TV watched and computers).
Be available and listen without judging or belittling.
A good summary of raising healthy boys in our shock-wave wounded world is from columnist Kathleen Parker… “We need to be reasonable, smart, and fully awake. Reduce boys’ exposure to violence, be there when they return from school, help them with homework, ask them about their day, let them cry if need be, support them when they’re down, help them to see options, teach them to handle guns safely if you have them, reward good behavior, provide meaningful consequences for unacceptable behavior, make reasonable demands, express moral expectations, talk to their teachers, and hug those boys every chance you get. Don’t ask them to be men when they’re just little boys, but show them how to be real men by demonstrating the thing we as a society seem to have lost: self-control. It’s the greatest gift, and it isn’t even rocket science. It’s just good parenting.”
Next post: I will write Dr. Dobson’s comments about Father and sons and Mother and son’s relationships. He starts out with the statement that we as parents need to have our sons (and daughters) see a sermon, NOT hear a sermon… see us doing what is right even though it is inconvenient or difficult!
In my Bible study over the past two weeks, a couple things really stood out to me:
1. As the 5th pledge of believing God from Beth Moore covers, I need to remember and believe that God’s word is alive and active in me (and in YOU!) and when I speak it out loud it is even more alive and powerful! Proverbs 18:21 “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” For reasons ultimately known to God alone, He has ordained that spoken words carry a power, authority, and effectiveness that exceed words we simply think. Therefore, I (and you) need to speak out loud more and daily of God’s words, promises, our prayers, and for satan to stay away. When reading the Bible, make sure to read out loud at least some of what you read.
2. Do not let life’s disappointments hinder our pursuit of God and reaching out to others in love. Remember that the Holy Spirit is always in us with God’s all surpassing power, and putting our favorite Bible verses on 3×5 cards and memorizing them is great to do (I often memorize while jogging or exercising). Then we have God’s words set in our hearts and ready to be remembered, utilized, and spoken – having our shield of faith and armor of God, and remember the power of praying God’s words and promises in your prayers…
Psalm 91:14-15 “Because I have set my love upon You, You will deliver me. You will set me on high, because I have known Your name. I will call upon You, and You will answer me. You will be with me in trouble; You will deliver me and honor me.”
Psalm 37:5 “Delight yourself also in Me, your Lord, and I will give you the desires of your heart.”
Prayer – God forgive me that I so often allow disappointments in life deter me from moving toward You. Help me put everything I am and have in your hands – with nothing held back!
Hugs and prayers for you to be filled to overflowing with the fruit of His Spirit! Gal.5:22